Introduction: A Traveler’s Guide to Respectful Adventures
I remember my first time in Sri Lanka. The air was thick with the scent of spices and jasmine, the colors were impossibly vibrant, and everywhere I went, I was met with the most genuine, heart-melting smiles. The people were so incredibly welcoming that I instantly felt at home. But as a guest in their beautiful country, I knew it was my responsibility to show respect for their culture and traditions. It’s not just about avoiding a faux pas; it’s abo building connections and showing appreciation for the people who are sharing their home with you.
I learned a few things along the way, and I want to share them with you. This isn’t a strict rulebook, but rather a friendly guide based on my own experiences as a foreigner. So, let’s dive into the essential dos and don’ts that will help you navigate your Sri Lankan adventure with grace and an open heart.
The “Dos”: Embracing the Culture and Making Connections
Do Embrace the Sacredness of Religious Sites
Sri Lanka is a deeply spiritual country, and you’ll find temples and sacred places everywhere. They’re not just tourist spots; they’re living, breathing centers of faith. My advice? Approach them with reverence.
- Dress the Part: I always kept a long skirt and a shawl in my bag. It’s so easy to quickly wrap up to cover your shoulders and knees before entering a temple. It’s a simple gesture that shows you care.
- Take Off Your Shoes: This is a big one. It’s a sign of respect for the sacred ground you’re about to walk on. Don’t worry, your feet will get used to the warm stone!
- Be Mindful of the Buddha: I learned that taking a photo with my back to a Buddha statue is a big no-no. It feels so natural to want to stand next to it for a selfie, but a respectful photo from the side is a much better way to honor the space.
Do Use Your Right Hand and Learn “Ayubowan”
In many cultures, the right hand is considered the “giving hand.” This is true in Sri Lanka as well.
- Exchanging Things: Whether it was buying a king coconut from a street vendor or accepting a gift from a new friend, I made sure to always use my right hand. It’s a subtle but important detail.
- The Greeting: My favorite part of my trip was learning to say “Ayubowan” (pronounced “ah-yoo-boh-wan”). It means “May you have a long life.” A little smile and this simple greeting go such a long way in making a connection.
Do Ask for Permission
The Sri Lankan people are incredibly photogenic and so welcoming, but it’s always polite to ask before snapping a picture. I found that a simple smile and a gesture with my camera was usually met with an enthusiastic nod. It’s a sign of respect and it often led to a friendly chat.
The “Don’ts”: Learning from My Mistakes and Others’
Don’t Touch Anyone’s Head
This was something I had to consciously remind myself of, especially when I was around children. The head is considered the most sacred part of the body, so touching it, even a child’s, is a big no-no.
Don’t Disrespect the Buddha
This is a serious point, and one I think is incredibly important to mention. One of the most important things to know is that showing disrespect to the Buddha is a major offense here. This includes having a Buddha tattoo. While in my country it might be seen as artistic, in Sri Lanka, it’s considered a profound insult. If you have one, it’s best to keep it covered at all times.
Don’t Point with Your Finger
I quickly learned that pointing with your index finger is considered rude. Instead, locals often use a gentle gesture with their chin or an open hand to show you the way. It’s a small detail, but once you notice it, you’ll see it everywhere!
Don’t Be Overly Affectionate in Public
Public displays of affection, like kissing or hugging, are not common in Sri Lankan culture. It’s always best to be discreet and respectful of local customs. A loving glance or holding hands is usually fine, but keep it low-key.
A Final Word on Your Sri Lankan Journey
Traveling to a new country and immersing yourself in a different culture is one of the most rewarding things you can do. By making an effort to understand and respect these simple customs, you’re not just being a good tourist—you’re being a thoughtful guest. The Sri Lankan people are wonderfully understanding, and they will appreciate any effort you make. These tips helped me feel more connected to the people and the place, and I hope they do the same for you.
Happy travels, and remember to always explore with an open mind and a respectful heart!
Cultural Etiquette: Dos and Don’ts Every Visitor Should Know Before Visiting Sri Lanka